Forgiveness

Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.      Mark Twain

Forgiveness is the master erase.

Forgiveness is not a feeling it is a choice.  You may not like what is happening or has happened, but you are saying by forgiving “I’m no longer going to invest in the feelings of hatred, anger or resentment, I will not stay locked in this situation and these feelings anymore"  Its not about the other person it is about you.  Making a strong affirmation such as ‘I am withdrawing my feelings from this.’ or any other empowering statement will begin to set you free.  The journey you are undertaking is one of unconditional love and at first these statements will be only words but gradually you will begin to feel a sense of freedom as the feelings locked inside will gradually disappear.

 It is necessary, in the same way as it is to clear clutter from your physical environment to make your inner space clean to make your emotional body clear and to let go of all resentments and scores in order to make room for the greater good. Forgiveness allows you to get on with your life and not hold on to the past.

 Sometimes you have to put yourself in the place of those who have hurt you in some way.  Say for instance it is your parents you want to forgive you have to know that your parents/caretakers were operating from their belief systems and their upbringing.  They did not mean to hurt you, but their behaviour, although inappropriate was from their own patterns and conditioning. Seeing things from the other persons perspective can almost be instantly forgiving.

Some things are said to be unforgivable and that an be understood. There are some things in the first instance unforgivable, but finally forgiving will free you and as said before allow you to get on with your life.  You don't have to condone what was done or like the person, but forgiveness is a spiritual action from the soul.  Forgiveness is the master eraser as we said before and it can be erasing issues from many lives lived before.

 Forgiving is the greatest gift we can ever bestow upon another, and the greatest experience we can enjoy ourselves.  It is truly a sign of a great capacity for love to be able to free others, transcend hurt feelings and dented pride, and bear no ill will towards those who harm us.

 Some Definitions of Forgiveness

.  To cease to bear resentments.

    To give up resentments against or the desire to punish.

    To stop being angry with.

    To pardon, to overlook.

    “Give for” or to “replace” the ill feeling, to gain a sense of peace and harmony.

    To give love for yourself.

Resentment, condemnation, anger, the desire to get even or to see someone punished or hurt, are things that rot your soul and tear down your health.

 You must forgive injuries and hurts of the past and the present, not so much for the other person’s sake as for your own.

 Hurt or hate of any kind scars the soul and works like an illness in the flesh.  The illness will not be fully healed while you continue to remain unforgiving.

 Forgiveness begins with the one who recognises the offence.  When you get the offence out of your own heart, you have forgiven.

Genuine forgiveness is not a casual act.

 The word means a ‘cleansing’ or ‘a blotting out of transgression’.

 It takes time and persistence for true forgiveness to invade the subconscious levels.  You may not be consciously aware of what or whom you need to forgive in the past or the present.  It is not necessary that you know, though often it will be revealed to you, as you invoke forgiveness.

 The only requirement is that you willingly speak words of forgiveness and let those words do their cleansing work.

A course in Miracles on Forgiveness 

·        The unforgiving mind is full of fear and offers love no room to be itself.

·        The unforgiving mind is sad without the hope of respite and release from pain.

·        The unforgiving mind is torn with doubt, confused about itself and all it sees.

·        The unforgiving mind is afraid to go ahead and afraid to stay.

·        The unforgiving mind does not believe that giving and receiving are the same.

Angel Wisdom on forgiveness

 An Angel reminder:  Forgive yourself and you will forgive others; forgive others and others will forgive you.

 The angels want us to know that we don’t have to forget in order to forgive.  Instead, they urge us to release our attachment to what has been done to us and to increase our awareness so that we don’t allow it to happen again.

 Of course, because forgiveness always involves the release of the energy draining emotions of anger, hurt and revenge, it is ultimately for our own benefit.

 When we truly practise forgiveness, we simple let go – of our indignation, of the other person, even of our desire to control the situation.

 In so doing, we join the divine cleanup brigade, helping the angels to keep our lives free of the litter of bitterness and the sludge of grudge so that a clear river of happiness and peace can flow through us.

An Angelic Reflection: Forgiveness is the surest route to the inner peace the angels want for me.

From Angel Wisdom  Terry Lynn Tayor & Mary Beth Crain

Forgiveness Affirmations

·        I forgive myself totally and completely.

·        I forgive myself for past errors.

·        As I forgive, I am forgiven.

·        As I forgive others, I forgive myself.

·        I totally and completely forgive (put in person’s name).

·        I freely forgive you. I loose you and let you go.  I let go and let God do the perfect work of healing my mind, body and affairs.

·        All that has offended me, I forgive. Whatever has made me bitter, resentful, unhappy, I forgive.  Within and without, I forgive.  Things past, things present, things future, I forgive.

·        Forgiveness is my salvation.

Forgiveness Exercises

 ONE 

1.      Make a list of people you are willing to forgive.

2.      Next make a list of what you are willing to receive. (For each person you forgive, you create space for your greater good.

3.      Conclude your list with the affirmation: “This or something better now manifests for the good of all concerned and in divine order, for I am now willing to consciously receive all the gifts God has given me.”

 TWO

 1.      From the list of people you are willing to forgive, make a list of whatever it is that you resent about that         person, are angry with that person about, are blaming that person for, and hate that person for.

2.      This is not an intellectual exercise.  To the best of your ability, get in touch with the feelings of resentment, anger, blame and hatred.

3.      Allow yourself to feel them fully.  You can do this as a written exercise or orally, either with a partner or by yourself in front of a mirror.

4.      Forgive the person for everything on your list.  That is go through everything on your list, and either write, say it to yourself in the mirror, or say it to your partner, who is being the person for you.  “I forgive you for……….”.

 Taken from the book  Something in this Book is True by BOB FRISSELL  (ISBN 9 781883 319656)

Before going to sleep each night you can make the intention to release all the issues you are not forgiving. We might not know all the thing we need to forgive but that is no problem because we are working with INTENTION.

The statement that follows can be used or you can make one up in your own words.

I forgive myself for all the transgressions I have made today in thought, word and deed and I ask that all those I have transgressed against to forgive me.

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"I forgive myself   This is a powerful statement and one that can be said anytime or place .