Energetic Cords and De-Cording

Cords are energetic connections between people, beings or parts of ourselves that serve  as negative relationship contacts.

Cords are formed when we are with another person to meet our needs.  This relationship may seem beneficial on the surface, until we realise they are formed out of needs and self-destructive belief patterns.

The belief patterns and habits we have grown up with ensures that the relationship is limited to a low standard of quality.   The cords that are formed are nearly always detrimental, with the exception being between a newly born baby and its mother. 

Cords make our energy system feel blocked and they fill the holes, cloud the mirrors and damage our barriers which need to be strong.  We give other people power over us when we are attached to them via negative cords. Our energy systems cannot work efficiently when we have cords of this nature holding us to another person.

Any relationship needs to be formed on the basis of mutual love, respect, and non-attachment.  In this respect relationships are defined as any which involves anything living, a place or situation. 

We are all corded permanently to GOD.  This is the cord which the on going soul carries from its original connection to GOD and is connected to  Our Mighty 'I AM' presence, the Monad within the spiritual world.  It is through this cord that we are also connected to our Guides and Guardian Angel.

We have also made cords from past life experiences on this planet and on other planets.  These past life cords help us to remember those people we have spent time with before and when you have a feeling you have met someone before or have visited a place before it is usually via these cords that you are remembering.  However we can not use past life experiences as an excuse for negative behavior.  If you blame someone for your negative thoughts towards them, or give yourself  license for otherwise non-social behavior, like extramarital sex, you are misinterpret ting and misusing the past life connection and most probably heaping up more karma for yourself. Usually whatever problems you had in past lives you have bought them forward to deal with in this life, although they are not as bad now as they were then, since you have learnt a few more things in the ensuing lives.  Lessons are another chance to get it right.

Our Birth parents are connected to us via our genetic cords.  When our parents join to make way for us a channel is being formed by them via the sperm that is connected to the father's heart center and the egg which connected to the mother's heart center. They are then connected to the baby who is the result from the conception.  In this way they are also connected to each other through the child. (This cording can open a deeper aspect of conception which is not of the heart but it is not appropriate to write this here and now, but it is appropriate that those concerned in conception other than through the heart centers, de-cord to the their parents with a loving intention of forgiveness).

Through the chakras you are connected to all the other children that your birth parents have conceived, your siblings and right on through grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins.  It continues all through your bloodlines connections, through the great genetic tree of life, creating a great network of light cords connecting all human life back to the first humans on earth.  Through this cording  we are connected to all life forms that have ever evolved and lived on earth.

Through your parents you form relational cords, the genetic and first relational cords are formed in the womb, during the birthing process and shortly after birth will still remain. Your biological parents continue to affect your childhood as you develop.  These will remain even if you do not stay with your biological parents, i.e. if you are adopted you form different relational cords with those caring for you.  The relational cords which are formed throughout our childhood development are linked to the psychological functions of the chakras and these cords will be mainly hooked into the area of emotional dependency you have formed with your beliefs about yourself and your abilities.  If we have been bought up with our feelings validated and with a sense of wholeness  our cords will be mainly positive but this is not the usual case so most of our cords formed on this level with our parents will need some degree of healing.

There are also cords formed with our relationship with other human beings. When two people come together for whatever reason cords are formed in that relationship.  The cords formed between intimate partners, whether married or not are the ones that cause a lot of difficulties when that relationships ends.  The level of pain felt indicates the involvement of the cords.  It can take a long time to heal when there is separation by death, abandonment or divorce, as the cords usually get badly damaged.  It has been described as being torn apart and that is what literally happens to the cords joining you.  The cord is ripped out of you leaving a gapping hole with jagged edges which need bringing  together and healing more so if you are the one who did not what the relationship to end.  Unfortunately, it is more likely that the hurting person will form another relationship on the rebound and fall into the same type of negative patterns that ended the one causing the pain.  Doing this, one is perpetuating the vicious circle.

When one partner departs, what happens to the remaining partner depends on how they have prepared for separation and can let go of the dependency of the old relationship. Unhealthy cords resist change and tries to maintain the status quo, while healthy cords simply allow the transition.   

When two people come together in love that love will always remain. It is our old beliefs and patterns which say love has to hurt when the partnership ends.  Love is eternal and when we realise that in this dimension there is nothing that is permanent of the material kind, the only permanent thing is the flame of divinity which burns in our heart.

Each day as we travel through life we cord to those we travel with however long or short the journey.  These cords which are formed are as healthy as we are and when we have no attachment to outcomes and walk our path with harmlessness we can make cords which will remain throughout eternity.

With all de-cording exercises it is essential they are carried out with love and forgiveness  and you will find when de-cording under these conditions a relationship can become clearer with each person coming from a point of wholeness and not neediness.  However, some relationships will end but the ending will be less painful for each party, and each will be able to move on with their journey much quicker and healthier.

Two circles forming a Vesica Pisces are visualised in a golden light.

They are formed on the same level horizontal rather than stacked on top of each other.

Connecting with your breathing come into your place of peace and love, that place inside which is all balance and harmony.

Connect with your higher self and also, if it is a person you are de-cording from, connect with that person’s higher self and surround both in white light.

Place yourself in one of the circles and the other person in the other circle.

Where the two circles join and over lap is called the Eye of Horus, and is a very powerful energy centre. DO NOT enter the Eye of Horus or allow the other person to do so. The reason for this is that, you will be giving your power away to the other person if they enter it and you will be asserting you power over them if you enter the Eye.

Now feel yourself being filled with unconditional love and say a prayer of intent, sending your pure unconditional love to that person in the other circle. Allow the feeling of love to permeate the whole picture. Tell the other person why you want to de-cord without blaming or judging.

Now slowly let the two circles begin to drift apart so that they form two individual circles. You need to have COMPLETE FEELING OF NON-ATTACHMENT TO THE OTHER CIRCLE.

If this does not happen have a look at the person to see what they are doing, they may have their back to you or wanting to hang on and not let the circles separate. On no account let them enter the Eye of Horus. If there is difficulty in allowing the circles to detach ask yourself, are you ready to let this person go at this time.

If you feel there is still unfinished business and you are not ready you need to ask yourself why you can not feel safe to put this relationship on a different footing. It may be that there is still emotional clearing to be completed. If this is the case put in the Eye of Horus all those reasons why you can not complete the exercise at this time.

As you begin to work on these issues you will gradually see them leave the Eye of Horus.

Then you will be ready to try the exercise again. Keep doing it until you are able to form a complete non-attachment to the other person or situation, place, feeling/emotion and the circles detach and form two complete separate circles.

This exercise will only work if your intention is to separate yourself with love and forgiveness.

This can also be used if you want to become independent of the other person but not separated from them. Perhaps a husband and wife have married out of need and that need is no longer relevant but they still want to be together from a point of wholeness and love and not need. In this case the two separated circles will be touching but not joining like the Vesica Pisces.

© Daphne Johnson 1997